How a Pampered Girl Lived Alone Without Her Parents

Being the eldest child, one gets a lot of perks from their parents. It comes with many advantages, yet so many disadvantages attached to it. My parents treated me like any parents would do.

The biggest of them all is I did not get a chance to live alone. I thought I could not survive without them. To going to university from home, and coming directly to home from university, my student life passed by. I did not have an inch of an idea of how society operated.

As they say, life changes in a millisecond without notifying us, the same happened with me as well. From being a pampered and coquet girl, I found myself at the helm of affairs.

My plan of going for higher studies fascinated me but I knew that I would have to live without any support. The only wall I could rely on was my own.


I did not know how to cook, but I had to cook. I did not know how to manage a home, but I had to manage it somehow. Life took a 180 degrees turn and left my head spinning. Being dependent on my parent at one moment and then finding myself on my own terrified me.






I never worked in my home. I completed my bachelors without any hassle. But now, I had to manage my job, I had to look after my house and between all of this, I had to pursue my higher studies as well.

It was a new yet very strange experience for me since I had never been out of my home searching for jobs. But behind the doors, all of this helped me in knowing how to lean on myself.

When life comes at you, it comes hard. Everything seemed new. Surviving in new conditions that I did not face prior to my life seemed an uphill task for me. I was not sure if I could make it or not.






But with going with the flow and allowing it to take me whichever way it was going, I appreciated it was for the best.

On occasions, when we face difficulties, we do not comprehend that it is for our good. As soon as the time comes, we realize that we were learning all the way.

Facing one difficulty and then overcoming it, facing another problem and then beating it, I came to the conclusion that challenges and problems are so temporary.


What matters is our will and consistency to adapt to new things. I lacked confidence. I never actually managed anything myself and when the time came, I fell short of the task.




I did not dare to go outside alone. But in order to learn something, you must break the shell that you made to cover yourself up. I knew I had to break it, so I did

A time comes when you have to become self-critical and reflect on where you went wrong. This is what I did. I observed I worked, and then I learned from my failure. Failures have their fair share in my life as well. I did not fail in my life.

But when I had to take a stance for myself, I started to fear losing. Failure either halts our growth or pushes us to do better.

Every day, everything starred in my eyes with fear. I did not have the energy to go outside alone, I knew failure was lurking around, ready to beat me.

A failure back then would mean the end of my life. I could not live without taking it on my nerves. But life prepares us mysteriously. Sometimes we reach our goals and we do not even realize it. I faced a lot of hurdles yet I remained persistent.

Comfort zone kills. It hinders our growth and I realized it soon enough. I knew I had to get out of it to survive. I did not have social skills. For instance, I had a negative image of people framed in my mind. As soon as I stepped out of my comfort zone, I got to know where there are bad people, there are good people around us too.